Old is hot. Hot flashes. Hot ticket. Hot. Being old and hot is in the news. In “Younger Longer: Can We Age Better? Or Even Stop the Process of Aging? , Adam Gopnik raises an interesting question: What if modern medicine and aging research could hold the clock steady on being middle aged, thereby allowing us to get older without growing old? Think of being seventy or even eighty without worrying about climbing a flight of stairs or apologizing for “a senior moment.”
On May 16, 2019, the “New York Times” published two articles in the Styles section about aging with style: “Polishing the Silver” by Ruth La Ferla and “Take That Graying Mane and Add a Burst of Fun” by Crystal Martin. Both articles made growing old and going gray sound like an invitation to a dress-up party.
I’m all for getting older with a little style in my step. For the first time in my life, thanks to the miracle of double cataract surgery, I can see well enough without glasses to artfully apply eye shadow and draw on a smooth bit of eyeliner. And you better believe I intend to fancy on some makeup every day for the rest of my life. It looks great. Makes me feel a touch glamorous and, most importantly, well armored to go out into the world and have my say. You see, getting older, is no longer the voice-silencing, invisibility-inducing sentence it used to be.
Seventy is about more than feeling and looking good.
Seventy is the new outspoken.
And, it’s about time.
Seventy is a privilege. It’s a gift. It’s about time we embraced that gift and used our years of making mistakes while doing some things right to be something better, do something bigger, and live larger, as though we don’t have enough time left to do anything else.
You think being seventy is hard? Try being eighteen. Can you imagine? Have you ever known such chaos? Such uncertainty? The stock market is bobbling at every tweet and tariff. Unemployment is up, then it’s down. Getting a college education costs more than ever before and many are left paying off student loans for decades after graduation, making it impossible to get ahead, buy a house or start a family. There’s climate change riding the winds of terrifying hurricanes, tornados and flooding rains. There are whispers of war here, there, everywhere. School shootings…and guns…don’t get me started.
Too much is happening for us to be silent…and those of us lucky enough to be seventy have the protection of age to speak up. It’s time for us to step up to the plate, be the elders, the wise ones, the ones who have lived long enough to speak truth to power.
It’s time to find new ways to “act your age.”
- Be a mentor. Find someone who can use your expertise, your help. It won’t be hard. Have coffee with them. Talk. Listen; especially listen. Offer support, direction, whatever is needed. It’s that helping hand thing and it works. When was the last time you had a conversation? A real one that mattered? This is your chance.
- Pick an issue. Dealer’s choice. The environment. Politics. School lunches. Classroom size. Money for the arts. Guns. Voting rights. Climate change. Transportation. Health care. Pick one; then, do something about it. Now.
- Find a new hobby. It doesn’t matter whether it’s baking cakes, planting a garden, building birdhouses or writing poems. Share what you love with someone. That’s how we build stronger communities. Make new friends. Create a kinder world.
- Take care of yourself. Exercise even if you have never exercised before. Exercise your body, and your voice. Be strong. Be focused. Raise a little hell. Have a little fun, and don’t ever think for a minute that there’s nothing you can do to change things.
You’re seventy or maybe eighty or, hallelujah! Ninety!!
You’re not old. You’re one of the warriors.
All those years of living have prepared you for this chance to make a difference. Step out, step up, and speak up!
You’ll be surprised who is waiting to hear what you have to say.
I hope any elders (or everyone, really!) reading this blog feel inspired. Everything said in this post is beyond 100% true! Making it to 70+ years old is an amazing thing. Think about how many memories have been made, how much you have experienced firsthand, (maybe) made a family of your own, and not to mention that you are able to share your experiences with those around you, both good and bad. I hope that I am lucky enough to be able to influence younger generations, make change for the better, and use that ‘protection of age’ to speak up.
Yes to everything mentioned in this post. Anyone who has reached this age should be very happy to know they have lived this far. At this age no one will ever be able to take your knowlege you have gained and all of the experiences you have lived. You should feel very good about yourself and continue your days living your best life.
I completely agree. I view aging as a privilege – you have lived your life, gained experiences and are fortunate enough to live in an era where reaching a higher age is possible. Gerontophobia would be less of an issue if we could look for the positives in aging and find ways to contribute to the world rather than honing in on the negatives. There are negatives at every age.
Yes, I totally agree. However, I work in an environment of seniors, most of them otherwise healthy and active, with a disease that robs them of their dignity and self-confidence: Dementia. Witnessing the devastating progress of this disease has made me somewhat of a DW (dementia worrier), a syndrome that can lead to cognitive impairment. However, in my case, it has motivated me to embrace lifestyle changes that should help to delay the onset of dementia or slow its progress, making me more of a Dementia Warrior than Dementia Worrier.
Yes to the article, I would like all seniors to read this and hopefully feel empowered
To take up a new hobby, work for a cause they feel passionate about, their are tons of children
In need of a mentor, just go to your local school and read to a little child. I understand we all might
Not be in a position to do any of these things. But hopefully, we can all stay informed on what is
Happening in the world. Stay engaged.
Yes, yes, and YES! Eight years into my seventies, I can affirm that it only gets better if we want it to. Gratitude and attitude are the foundation, but then we have to run with it! My hands are arthritic, but my knees and my brain are all geared up! Thank you for reminding us how precious this decade can be! I’m planning for my 80’s – the “happiest decade” – to be even more of what has already shown up.
You go, girl! ❤️