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It’s Time to Believe Older Adults, Too

Just as we should believe those who report experiences of sexual harassment, so too should we believe older adults who report elder harassment in any of its forms.Stop Elder Abuse

by, Jeanette Leardi, ChangingAging Contributor

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In a stunning move that has crystalized a culturally historic moment, Time magazine named its 2017 Person of the Year to be “The Silence Breakers,” courageous women and men who finally feel empowered enough to speak out about sexual harassment, a scourge that pervades every industry and corner of society. It’s way past time.

Of course, it’s easy to say this and to ask what took so long for our culture to reach this tipping point. Yet the answer is startlingly simple: People are finally believing the victims’ stories. That’s no small milestone, especially since those who have experienced sexual harassment have been trying to make their cases for millennia and have either been ignored, discredited, intimidated, persecuted, or otherwise silenced. Not now. No more.

Hopefully this turn of events will now precipitate similar tipping points for those who experience racism, ethnic/religious persecution, ableism, homophobia, and ageism. Harassers of any kind should be held accountable for their actions, whether seemingly innocuous (they never are) or downright violent.

As we are learning through victims’ accounts, there’s a spectrum of abuse regarding harassment. Some people are forced to endure hearing demeaning jokes, being unfairly stereotyped, or depicted as lacking a sense of humor, while others are denied opportunities for career advancement or are violently assaulted. All of their stories need to be heard –– and believed.

Which brings me to another social scourge: ageism. Just as we are encouraged to believe those who report experiences of sexual harassment, so, too, should we believe older adults who report elder harassment in any of its forms. Ageism, too, is a spectrum of abuse, one that can be illustrated by a three-tiered pyramid:

Pyramid describing elder abuse

The bottom tier consists of the beliefs, attitudes, and everyday behaviors that form the foundation of ageism. Making older adults the subjects of ageist jokes; speaking to or about them as if they are feeble or children (also known as “elderspeak”); creating a sense of fear about older adults using up the world’s resources; blaming them as solely responsible if they are poor, sick, uneducated, or unemployed; failing to acknowledge their existence (let alone their viability); assuming that all old people think, act, and believe in the same way; and recasting social safety nets in politically negative terms –– these are destructive impulses without which none of the other forms of ageism would exist.

The next higher tier comprises the social, political, and economic impacts of ageism upon older adults in their communities, workplaces, and healthcare settings. For example AARP reports that of the 1 in 5 American workers ages 55 and older, 64% have seen or experienced workplace discrimination. In addition, a sobering 2015 article published in the American Society on Aging’s journal Generations outlines the many forms medical ageism, while a study published in the same year in the Journal of General Internal Medicine reports that “One out of five adults over the age of 50 years experiences discrimination in healthcare settings.” Either they are under-treated (what I call the “Why bother?” syndrome) or they are over-treated (the “Keep them alive at all costs” syndrome). These examples, and many others from all sectors of society, illustrate the pervasive nature of harassment that older adults experience.

The highest tier contains the most direct and personal extremes of harassment. Like sexual abuse, these experiences are traumatic and often go underreported by victims because of the fear of not being believed and/or of a resulting retaliation for speaking out. Often an older adult’s complaints may be dismissed as the ravings of an incompetent mind –– thus adding personal degradation to the process.

All of this is to say that harassment in any form, toward any person, and for any reason should not be justified or tolerated. It should be stopped and the harasser held accountable. Equally important, the victim should be given a safe environment in which to report it and an opportunity to be believed. That should be the first step toward obliterating this destructive behavior.

In the words of Justice Louis D. Brandeis, “Sunlight is said to be the best of disinfectants.” Time magazine has taken a historic step toward shining a light on sexual harassment by giving its victims a platform upon which to stand and speak. Since every one of us is aging and will most likely experience ageism at some time in our lives, let’s construct a platform of our own on which to stand and call out harassers. And let’s always make room for others to join us on that platform to tell their stories … and to be believed.

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Published to: Ageism, Culture Change on December 8, 2017

About the Author

  • Jeanette Leardi, ChangingAging Contributor

    Jeanette Leardi is a Portland, Oregon, writer, editor, and community educator who has a passion for older adult empowerment and finds special personal fulfillment helping Boomers and older generations identify and share their wisdom with others. Her decade of experiences as the primary caregiver to both of her parents inspired her encore career goals of changing perceptions about the aging process and helping people appreciate elders’ inherent dignity, wisdom, and unique value as mentors and catalysts for social change. She accomplishes this through her successful presentations and classes in journaling, spiritual writing, memoir writing, personal mythmaking, brain fitness, intergenerational communication, and caregiver support to people of all ages. Jeanette’s publishing experiences include positions at Newsweek, Life, People, Condé Nast Traveler, and Sesame Street magazines and The Charlotte Observer. She has a master’s degree with honors in English from Rutgers University and a graduate certificate in gerontology from the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. She can be reached through her website, www.jeanetteleardi.com.

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  1. Densu Kurian says

    April 22, 2018 at 10:53 pm

    I am an AGNG 320 student at the Erickson school of aging. Everything that Ms. Leardi talked about in this article was interesting to me and I agree with most of her if not all of her points. We see and hear people complaining about being harassed all the time but I can only think of incidents where young or middle-aged people are involved and none with older adults. Older adults who complain about being harassed are usually ignored and/or not given the right amount of attention their deserve. People in this country have been fighting for the equal right for decades but not a lot of people stand up for the right of the older adults. Whenever people in the older community stands up for themselves they are shut down faster than they are given the proper care. These people deserve to be heard and given the proper attention and care.

  2. edder says

    April 22, 2018 at 9:20 am

    I am an AGNG 320 student at the Erickson school of aging. I agree with the points Ms. Leardi made in this article. Harassment is pervasive in our culture and is given very little attention, in most cases. Sexually and racially motivated incidents are starting to gain more attention due to recent events, however ageism is largely ignored. Elders in nursing homes with little to no interaction with the outside world are particularly susceptible to the highest tier of the spectrum of abuse. I do not think the concepts I have studied in this class impact my position at all. People should be treated equally regardless their ages.

  3. Divine says

    April 19, 2018 at 10:57 pm

    I am an Aging student at the Erikson school of Aging at the University of Maryland Baltimore County. I has been the case that, most adults who report harassment of any kind are hard to be believed because people have the impression of them either seeking for attention or just mentally troubled. We see cases like this in many nursing homes where care givers abuse their client and authorities do not believe this client unless otherwise caught on tape. Aging is just a biological process which we all will go through someday and our older adults are just like us who need to socialized, be loved, and like to be independent.

  4. Kathy Foldes says

    January 3, 2018 at 1:47 pm

    I am a retired attorney who worked on several elder abuse cases. It is a shame to see what family members will do when money is involved, not to mention how strangers can take advantage. I a more personal way, your article speaks to my own experience of feeling invisible now that I am a senior. I make sure my voice is heard but it has to be really loud!

  5. Susan Macaulay says

    December 8, 2017 at 5:37 pm

    Thanks for a well-written and timely post. I’m 100% with you, and am fighting hard to change mindsets.

  6. PGB says

    December 8, 2017 at 3:57 pm

    Bravo … As an attorney, I am concerned that old people who report sexual harassment or assault are not believed. I’ve heard prosecutors talk about the difficulty of obtaining convictions in cases where very old person is involved because (he said) they don’t make good witnesses and can get confused. This is an issue whose time has come.

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