I have worked with people who have dementia for many years. The one who is always wandering down the hall looking for something, or trying to go home, will break your heart. I was like the rest of my staff, trying to redirect, refocus or distract the resident. I often felt helpless. Recently while helping with a training, I met Dr. Power. He talked about dementia, he talked about needs. That the resident is looking for comfort or a home for them now. This was a new idea. I should have known this, especially now. This month, two years ago, I lost my husband of 33 years. I have been looking for home, these two years. I have moved several times, I surround myself with friends and family. But…………….I still feel like I can’t find home! I am looking for the home I had with my husband, the home I raised my family, my life as it was before his death. That home is gone, as surely as the dementia resident has lost their home. The feeling is there, that something is missing, something was there, where is it? A feeling, a need………………. A need that staff can help fill, if they have the correct understanding and training.
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