Degenerative relationships are not uncommon among the elderly in even the happiest marriages, marriage therapists and geriatricians say. But that is small comfort to either the couple in the middle of the maelstrom, or the children who care for them, as evidenced by a number of postings on caregiver blogs. As some of the children have wondered there: “Why can’t we all just get along?”
When grown children see their parents fight, many want to run and hide. But those who are assuming an increased caregiving role often feel impelled to jump in and “fix” the problem, as they do with the other caregiving issues. If you are so inclined, experts speak with one loud voice to advise: Don’t!