My Dilemma – Joe Podson, MAgS # 643 5-13-09
Picking one dilemma is a dilemma.
Mrs. V. lives “independently” in my community. We provide no nursing care. She is complains about a girl stealing her panties and eating her pickles. (Her jar used to last a month and now it lasts less than a month.) We communicate our concerns to her family.
She now wants to transfer to another building to get away from the pickle stealing girl and to be with her old friends but her “old” friends do not want her with them. When I challenge her request she starts crying and tells me she wants to kill herself and wishes for God to take her. We talk at length and speak about her feelings and for her to see her doctor and family. She refuses to call her family or doctor.
I comfort her and I leave messages with family with no response so I tell them I will call Adult Protection Services. APS visits and indicates she is not a threat to herself. The daughter finally calls me while I am in class at UMBC and says this is her pattern of not getting her way. I discover the family yelled at her for telling me about her suicide comments and causing problems. She now avoids me but wishes to move.
My dilemma is do I move her since her request is not a fair housing request but she could get a doctor to say it is but not a solution to her true problem? If I move her other residents will want to move and this creates a costly landslide. Do I continue to report her erratic behavior to her family?