From an Oxycontin haze, I hear the death chant from a 90-something neighbor, three doors down the hall. The screams pierce every bone in my body and continues for hours.
After 14 years fighting to maintain some shred of autonomy and home in assisted living facilities in New York and Pennsylvania, Martin Bayne is being evicted from his current assisted living. His next stop will be an “indeterminate stay” at a short-term rehab facility in a local CCRC.
After 14 years fighting to maintain some shred of autonomy and home in assisted living facilities in New York and Pennsylvania, Martin Bayne is being evicted from his current home tomorrow with no alternative arrangement yet determined.
Recently, I was struck with an idea so simple, efficient, and powerful, I was compelled to call my closest friends to share the idea with them. To the person, they responded – “How can I help?”
A couple of weeks ago I published an article titled “Bill Thomas Says I Am an Abolitionist”.
Steve Moran, I secretly wonder how much of your enchantment with the nursing home sector is born of quid pro quo generosity.
Martin Bayne has a radical vision for caregiving that he asked me to run by ChangingAging’s audience. Take a look at what he has to say:
After twelve years living with Parkinson’s in an Assisted Living facility, I’d like to report that going toe-to-toe with death has become just another fact of life. But it hasn’t. In fact, the older I get (now 64), the more I dig in with all the tenacity I can muster to stave off what I know is natural and inevitable.
Last night I was reminded about how much can go RIGHT with caregiving.
The only thing worse than having to spend the remainder of your natural life in a Skilled Nursing Facility (SNF) of your choosing, is spending the remainder of your natural life in a Skilled Nursing Facility NOT of your choosing.
It’s 11:00 PM and I write these words on my iPad while sitting in my bed at the Phoebe Ministries nursing home/rehab complex in Allentown, Penn.
Martin Bayne transfered successfully to his new nursing home. The good news is he got a private room (probably the only one in the building). Otherwise, he reports the food is terrible and the atmosphere is worse.
Martin Bayne called me from the hospital today asking if ChangingAging would help him chronicle his journey of recovery as he transitions to a nursing home to regain adequate health and mobility to return to his home at Sacred Heart Assisted Living.
Here’s an idea for every residential aging facility that struggles with ambient despair that masks itself as “activity indifference” (the resident spends her entire day in her room or a chair in the main lobby avoiding activities and other residents).
I learned that of all the techniques, healing systems, protocols, clinical trials, methodologies, and treatment plans, what works most reliably, most consistently, with the greatest rate of success is simple kindness.
I recently had a conversation here about an idea that would simultaneously improve the quality of life for residents while saving the lives of rescue animals.
Nothing we do will make a shred of difference until the people living in long term care take responsibility for finding purpose in their own lives, says Martin Bayne.
Imagine you are 70, your spouse has just died and your children have decided it’s no longer safe or prudent for you to live alone. It’s your worst nightmare—complete with memories of the insecurities and trepidation felt in the first days of school, but this time it’s an assisted living facility, and, like you, the other “kids” are in their 70s, 80s and 90s.
We arrive as infants “trailing clouds of glory,” but many of us are at war with ourselves by the time we are teenagers. For most, as the responsibilities of our lives increase, and the demands of the marketplace intensify, the war expands. Many look in the mirror and see the image of someone they […]
Most believe that courage is the result of conquered fears, but REAL courage is what happens when we continue to move forward DESPITE our fear.