We arrive as infants “trailing clouds of glory,” but many of us are at war with ourselves by the time we are teenagers. For most, as the responsibilities of our lives increase, and the demands of the marketplace intensify, the war expands.
Many look in the mirror and see the image of someone they dislike, distrust and feel unworthy of the gifts life freely offers them.
Self-contempt drills down deep into the psyche; we cover the wound with a patch– money, romance, power, notoriety. But the patch never holds and we start to hemorrhage again.
Many will repeat the cycle, “leading lives of quiet desperation” until their last breath.
The good news? You can reverse this process at any age.
There is a slow, natural, gradual technique that will heal the wound permanently and help the psyche regain its equilibrium.
I call it Raging Voice Work.
Each of us has a dominant inner voice – it comes with being human and having an ego.
That voice “speaks” to us hundreds of times a day; for some, the tone is generous, supportive and playful; for most, however, the conversation is one-sided and nasty, sarcastic and cynical, invariably turning ugly:
“You’re not living up to your potential, you could be doing more,” and “you should feel ashamed or embarrassed about ______,” or “why can’t you be more like ______?”
When you hear someone use the expression, “If you only knew the real me…,” they are almost always referring to their Raging Voice.
And so, for 20, 30, or 90 years we play a game with ourselves. We pretend to ignore the voice. We fill every waking, conscious moment of our lives with noise and motion. We drive our cars with the radio on; we eat our lunch or make the bed with the TV on. Anything to avoid coming to a stop in silence.
For it is there, in the silence of non-movement, that we are left alone with our voice. And the thought of being alone with that Raging Voice terrifies us.
to be continued . . .