Jude is Doing Better

I know that I have been quiet the past few days but I am now confident enough to write that Jude is getting better— slowly— she is gradually gaining strength. She is sitting in a chair right now. Hooray! I watch her sitting there writing out thank you notes to you all and I know that I love her and that I need her. Her illness has left me with the strange sensation that a part of my self is missing.

Very strange. Very empty.

In terms of elderhood, this episode has been very minor very brief look at the possibility of living life alone. It has also heightened our shared sense of gratitude. Neither of us know how much time we have left or how much time our children have left to live. This terrible uncertainty is currently pushing us toward using this awareness– as painful as it has been— as a prod to living with more gratitude and appreciation. If we succeed in this, even in a small way, then Jude’s illness and gradual recovery could lead us toward that most precious of human attributes—– meaning.

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Bill is a visionary leader in the online Changing Aging movement and a world-renowned authority on geriatric medicine and eldercare. Bill is founder of two movements to reshape long-term care globally – The Eden Alternative and Green House Project.

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  1. Jo
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    Sounds like you both are recovering. Its always such a complex situation when one of two very close people is ill. A good reminder of how interwoven everything really is…how one person’s experiences affect another! How the little things really are the big things…companionship being one of the simplest yet truest comforts! You are a great team. I’m thankful Jude is healing! Blessings to you both!

  2. Elaine Cheedle
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    Because of you and the GHP, I have made real efforts to have meaningful conversations with the elders that live nearby where I volunteer. One, with whom my 6-year old daughter had formed a bond, passed away this week. I know our weekly visits meant a lot to her, as she had had a stroke and always sat (or was placed) by herself near the fireplace. We didn’t even know she could talk until we ventured over and struck up a conversation about a year ago. I have pictures of my small daughter holding her hands and staring her in the eyes. Mortality, and the search for meaning at every turn. Thank you for your inspiration.

  3. Anne Meron
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    Thank you for your beautiful reminder to live from a place of gratitude for every second we are blessed to have the opportunity to live this life on this planet

  4. Ken Blair
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    Bill, please pass on my best wishes to Jude. I remember fondly the time we spent together, including the mazes at the farm

  5. Helene
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    I am so happy to hear good news. I trust she will continue to improve and get back her strength, having you around will help. Gratitude and appreciation, bring it on!

  6. Bev Laubert
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    And I imagine the opportunity you have had to nurture Jude has been meaningful to you – much like nurturing helps elders thrive.

  7. Meredith Ann Rutter
    Meredith Ann Rutter at | | Reply

    We can’t be reminded of our fortunes often enough. Great post, Bill. Thank you, and love to you and Jude. I’m glad I didn’t send a card–tell her I did that on purpose so she wouldn’t feel obligated to send a thank-you note….

  8. Lynne Taetzsch
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    Until something happens to us or someone we love, it’s hard to really believe we are mortal. Since my husband died over a year ago, I am aware of my mortality every day. It does make me see life differently. I’m still figuring it out.

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