I haven’t had the chance to see the new film Amour by director Michael Haneke but reviewers are calling it one of the most masterful films about aging, mortality and “amour.” So I put a request out to our ChangingAging LinkedIn group and asked for user reviews. Have you watched Amour? Please share your reviews in the comments below.
Deborah Cooke • I’m not good at formal reviews, but this movie is fantastic. By no means is it easy to watch. As professionals in the field and often caregivers ourselves, we see this all too often. The pace is perfect as it shows the real struggle of keeping someone “alive” through a slow decline. The depiction of an older devoted husband insisting on caring for his beloved wife, without assistance, is so real. The actors truly are immersed in this very real experience. Unfortunately the movie brings to life and light the feeling shared by all caregivers. I do recommend it. Bring your tissues.
Catherine Yanda • The movie brings home the point that caregiving & love are intertwined. The bond between these two actors captured something real that is difficult to explain, rarely discussed and usually invisible even to those close to ‘caregiving couples’. This applies whether the two are spouses, friends, or one in which there is a parent and an adult child.
I liked this movie – it avoided forced humor and being preachy. It clearly was crafted by a master film maker who understood the subject at the gut level. At least for me it sought to remind us that in these instances that the relationship should be understood as a third distinct “we” as a physical presence and personality in addition to the two separate individuals. This bond of “we” grows stronger as external events peel away to leave the couple to live every day as today even as they look back and forward.
Facing one’s mortality while caring for another with the certainty that you will be there at the end should be celebrated – not feared. I’d like to see the reviews people submit – perhaps we can share them here as well as the main site.