Is it possible to grow old – with chronic disease, loneliness, isolation, – and still be happy? Well, is it?
I recently had a conversation here about an idea that would simultaneously improve the quality of life for residents while saving the lives of rescue animals.
Martin Bayne has spent the last ten years as an assisted living facility resident and shares the top 10 things to know before moving in.
Next week marks my 3,652 day as an assisted living resident – my ten-year anniversary as a member of America’s Institutional Aging Community.
When the plane had climbed to 13,500 feet, I checked the wind one final time and nodded to the pilot. Then, with the usual mixture of terror and exhilaration, I slowly pushed off the wing mount and into the stuff of dreams. Within ten seconds my body had reached terminal velocity, the speed [...]
Imagine you are 70, your spouse has just died and your children have decided it’s no longer safe or prudent for you to live alone. It’s your worst nightmare—complete with memories of the insecurities and trepidation felt in the first days of school, but this time it’s an assisted living facility, and, like you, the other “kids” are in their 70s, 80s and 90s.
Eight days ago, I was rushed to the hospital by ambulance. An Emergency Room physician told me I nearly bought the farm.
But it was not to be. Not this time. Not this farmer.
Let me tell you a little something about dying and The Farm.
This morning, at approximately 6:00 a.m., I fell while attempting to make my way to the bathroom. The position I landed in – because of my Congestive Heart Failure – made it almost impossible to breathe. After activating the emergency pendant I wore around my neck, I knew my top priority was to get my [...]
Last night a dear friend of mine dropped his 97-year-old body on the floor and ran off to join the group of friends who have been watching over him for the last century. I can only imagine it was a rowdy homecoming with lots of music, dancing, and celebration. My friend and fellow assisted living [...]
We call the bridge between birth and death “aging.” In it’s ascendancy, we are “young” even though our 10 trillion youthful cells have already started losing DNA telomere base pairs each time they divide. If we survive youth, our aging cells become senescent and start to die. We call this “growing old”. We are [...]
It is 1 am. I am holding the plastic IV needle firmly, but gently.. She receives the fluid without looking, as if she doesn’t want to know her frailty. I love her, but this is some place I don’t want to be. I never wanted to be here again. Never wanted to be responsible [...]
The first time I saw William, two years ago, he was sitting alone in the dining room. Tall, gaunt and haunting, he reminded me of pictures I’d seen of men at Auschwitz, Bergen-Belsen and Dachau. His eyes, sunken and non-expressive, looked straight ahead and he stooped slightly when he walked – something one would expect after [...]
Saturday November 10 2012 Well, we survived Sandy. (a hurricane is like litmus paper for human beings and their emotions. Do you want to find out what the person is really like – just take away their electricity for about five or six days. That’ll [...]
Cognitive Narration Nelson Mandela, in his 1994 Inaugural Speech, said: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous ? Actually, who are you not to be [...]
July 2009, Hell I write these words on a notepad, sitting on a hospital bed. Below me, a black rubber mattress amplifies the almost unbearable heat of this steamy July evening.
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There is a new and simple algorithm that describes the challenges of upgrading our current institutional aging facilities – WHAT.
SUB-STANDARD WAGES ARE THE BIGGEST OBSTACLE
The women of color that are the backbone of this country’s network of institutional aging facilities – many of them single parents – are denied a living wage. This creates a “revolving door” phenomenon that cripples moral and destroys any sense of continuity for the residents. This cannot stand.
A group of Wii bowlers from six assisted living facilities in Pennsylvania’s Lehigh Valley, were indicted yesterday by a Federal Grand Jury on charges of Physiological Doping for the Purpose of Racketeering – a Class B felony. ”They almost pulled it off,” said Sgt. Richard Morgan of Center Valley, Pennsylvania’s Geriatric Crime Unit.
Nine Out of Ten Assisted Living Residents Give Their Community a “Thumbs Up” Alyssa Gerace | October 11, 2012 | Comments (0) Responsive and caring management and staff at assisted living communities are top drivers for high satisfaction rates among residents and their families toward the communities they reside in, according to the 2011-2012 National Surveys of Customer and Employee Satisfaction in Assisted Living Communities.
Death is an unknown to us, and for many, so is pain. The journey my mother and my family took is a lesson to us all: Protect what you have and defend what you know in your heart to be true. And most of all listen. Listen to the person loving you and living inside the body before you that seems lifeless. Listen to all they say.