The background on this situation is here.
Hello…This is installment #2 about our Pop. Somehow I missed responses to my first reply and now that things continue to be pretty difficult and confusing I am writing hoping to hear ideas, suggestions, anything to help me help him, and hopefully think/feel/be better around what is happening with him.
86 years in 10 days. Mid stage alzheimers with critical stage aortic stenosis and very minor symptoms of this. Living in wonderful enhanced assisted living home in LA. No Eden Cert but recommended by the only know Eden facility in LA. Scurrying to bathroom wearing crocks, one foot stuck as he changed from rug to linoleum floor surface and without a fall fractured his hip right next to ball joint late August. Having little time to think, my brother and I reacted in fear based on post surgical horror stories and refused repair. He returned to his home with a indwelling catheter as it was discovered that he had a VERY (1300 cc) distended bladder on arrival at the hospital – thus his frequent urgent trips to bathroom. He prostate was totally blocking the out flow despite years of flomax.
After arranging 24 hour bedside care and transitioning him into hospice program I realized that not having surgery put him and his unrelenting desire to get up, out of bed, get going…cause that’s the kind of guy he is…in a horrible dilemma. All day/night long he and a care partner are dealing with varying levels of intensity and insistence about wanting to get up. Because of the dementia he can’t remember that his hip is broken