ChangingAging reader Guest asks for a little dose of inspiration:
I am the caregiver for my 93 year old Mother. I am 54. I am the youngest of four children. My oldest sibling died three years ago. Most of the family and extended family live in the same small town where Mom and I are living, yet I get VERY little help from any of them. It is a sad and hurtful thing that the rest of the family do not help, but sadder that they do not feel a need to at least visit Mom.
It is very important that I use the tools available to me to keep me inspred to continue on this journey. I use the internet a lot for information and research to help me find answers to the needs that we experience. I am on facebook, as are all of the other family members. I stumbled upon a sight called Trust Your Journey. Everyday and sometimes more than once a day, TYJ posts a quote for inspiration. I can’t tell you how many days one of their quotes has changed my attitude for the whole day. I was thinking, that even though it seems a small thing, if YOUR sight did the same thing with quotes that celebrate the Elder years of our lives, as well as reinforce the attitudes of those of us who strive to make these years better for our Elders. I have learned more about human behavior in these years as being a caregiver than I have at any other time of my life. If one quote a day came up on every person’s facebook page, maybe ! it would at least begin a change in one’s way of thinking about our Elders. A baby step, perhaps, but baby steps taken by many is the beginning of a movement in the right direction. If everybody did something, somebody wouldn’t have to do everything.
Thank You for ALL you do to keep this subject active.
First, as someone who knows well that the burden of caregiving overwhelming falls on a single family member, almost always female, I want to honor you and all the other daughters, sisters, mothers and women who commit themselves to caregiving. And I think Trust Your Journey is doing a superb job honoring women caregivers as well.
Second, I love your suggestion (instantly seconded by Karen) to share inspiring quotes. I will look at incorporating such a feature into our big redesign of ChangingAging.
Third — I’ve long been meaning to share with ChangingAging readers a gem of a book sent to me by Ilene Cummings of TheBeautyConversation.com. Her brilliant self-published book The Lavender Lace Bra, wisdom thoughts on aging beautifully, is full of hundreds of principles for aging with wisdom, presence, grace, and class:
Exercising daily and eating correctly, while essential, are not enough. Aging beautifully will always be measured by the peace we make with our own souls.
I’ve asked the most important woman in my life — Jude Meyers Thomas — to select passages from The Lavender Lace Braw to share with ChangingAging readers. Stay tuned!